What's a Christian to Say

What’s a Christian to Say? part 1

What Can I Say?

I am saddened by the foul and abusive talk that is being spewed out all around our country. One might want to speak up and voice an opinion but the response is so ugly that they decide to keep quiet. I don’t want to talk politics here but what’s a Christian to say?

Now, I’m not really interested in what a Christian should stand for politically.  I’ll leave that between them and God. I am more interested in how a Christian should speak about his beliefs and defend his faith in an anti-christian world. It was Billy Graham who said,

Our society strives to avoid any possibility of offending anyone—except God. – Billy Graham #Walkaway Click To Tweet Continue reading
my life with fibromyalgia; fibro warriors, letters to friends about fibro life

A Day in the Life with Bettie G

first published on GGMandy blog

A Day in the Life of a Fibro Warrior

As promised, here is the first letter; written by one of my dear fibro friends, Bettie Gilbert. I am sharing these letters to help you better understand what fibromyalgia is doing to us. I met Bettie through blogging. We were both writing about our chronic pain and we realized that we were on the same journey together, both of us having Rheumatoid Arthritis AND Fibromyalgia AND we both have roots in Ohio and Wisconsin, too! Isn’t that neat? Read her words here. Maybe they will help a little as you try to understand what is happening to us and how you can better relate. God Bless.

Mandy Farmer
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Hello, My Friend,

Bettie Gilbert A Dau in the Life of a fibro Warrior

I am so thankful that you asked how I was doing the other day. You see, on many days it’s hard for me to get out, and I really do appreciate your concern. Sometimes when people look at me, it’s hard to tell that anything difficult is going on because much of the pain I feel is not outward. That’s the way with Fibromyalgia: it’s called one of the “invisible illnesses.”  But my Rheumatologist has given me a real diagnosis, and the pain of Fibromyalgia Syndrome is often complex and hard to understand.

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When I wake up in the morning, usually it’s a struggle to get out of bed.  Even if I have slept, (but many nights I do not sleep well,) I still wake up dragging and feeling like I am walking through concrete. My Doctor has told me the term for that is “un-refreshing sleep,” and is common with Fibro patients.  After I have my breakfast and my one cup of coffee that I allow myself, I might get a burst of energy and feel like I can finally catch up on some of my activities.

However, from past days in my life,

I know that I had better pace myself, or later on, I will pay for overextending myself with “post-exertional-malaise.” That’s the term for the over-exhaustion and pain that will likely hit fibro patients 24 to 48 hours after a time of physical exertion, or even heavy emotional stress.  Because Fibromyalgia is a dysfunction of the nervous system that remains in a constant state of “fight or flight” the edge of that nervous system is usually quite close to the surface.  It’s important to balance short times of activity with times of rest in between.

I have been trying to listen to my Doctor’s advice, to be more aware of my limits, and to be kind to my body during this season of chronic illness. So if I sometimes have to cancel our plans, maybe you can better understand where I am coming from.  I don’t enjoy missing out on many of the ways that we used to connect. But I pray that we will find new ways to stay connected and that our friendship remains intact even through these many changes.  Having the support of people who care for me is a blessing that I do not take for granted.

Your Loving Friend,

Bettie G

Read more of R.A. Seasons by Bettie Gilbert

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Reminder :  I am a patient, not a doctor. What I am sharing comes largely from what my doctors taught me and some of what is discovered in my own research.
The purpose of this series is to inform. I pray you will be informed enough to support friends with this syndrome or possibly acquire informed questions for your doctor. Please talk with your doctor or visit the Mayo Clinic website for official information, diagnosis, and treatment.

Come by for a visit

Dropping By For A Visit

Don’t you miss the days when people would visit and sit for a spell?

family reunion
cousin, aunt,sousin, me, my husband, my daughter
2014 Dawson (my) family reunion

I do. I think that is why I want a front porch so badly. I miss the days of sitting on the porch with friends and family just resting and sharing time together.

These days we never drop in on people and thus our lives remain lonely and we never learn from one another. No one is a close friend anymore. We are all just acquaintances.

Remember When?

Even our families no longer stop by for a visit. I remember going for a drive and stopping in on my mom’s aunt and uncle. I don’t know how she did it. But my Aunt Mary must have had a 6th sense that someone was coming by because it seemed about 5-10 minutes after we arrived, she presented a delicious cake. Besides the delicious cake and good conversation, we gained the chance to actually know our cousins. If we had not stopped in occasionally, I would never have known my mother’s cousins, nor my second cousins.

I remember that our family friends would take turns having everyone over after the football games. These were all high school friends of my parents. Of course, they all had kids the same age as my siblings and me. Boy, did we have a grand time together?

As an adult, many of us would head out to a restaurant after Sunday Evening Worship. We seldom to that either.

We Are Too Busy

The truth is, we have become so busy that we never slow down long enough to just visit with anyone. The Bible instructs us to practice hospitality. The Book of Hebrews suggests that we should not forsake meeting together.  This scripture is usually used to encourage church attendance, but the early church met together in homes also sharing meals and encouraging one another. This is where we really get to know one another and share in each other’s lives. We can attend church, come in and go out, without truly interacting with people. But meeting in our homes and eating together, that is when we become more than acquaintances.

Here’s the Challenge

So, have you had a visitor or drop by on someone unexpectantly? When did you last invite someone into your home? We may need to make a concerted effort to fellowship together.

Meeting Around the Table

A few years ago, a new Women’s conference erupted into the scene called IF Gathering. They have developed the idea that encouragement comes from around the table. They encourage us to have a once a month meeting around the table. Invite 5 or 6 people to share a simple meal and have a real conversation.

They feel that this is so important that they provide menu ideas and questions to ask each other. It’s called IF: Table. You can Check it out here.

Table games are an excellent way to increase comradery. Try this awesome game with some friends called Life Stories. You will have a great time learning new things about one another.

You can learn more about mentoring around the table with this book written by a friend. Coming Alongside: Blessed to be a Blessing

I’m ready for a visit. Come on by! I’ll make a pound cake.

Mandy Farmer

I participating in Kate Motaung’s Five Minute Fridays where we take a prompt and write for five minutes.

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