Same Kind of Different review

Movie Review: Same Kind of Different

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This Movie Stirred My Soul

I just finished watching a movie, The Same Kind of Different as Me. I had to come to tell you about it immediately while my heart was still moved. This movie is based on the true story of an international art dealer who cheated on his wife. His wife forgave him but for penance, she required him to come with her and serve at a local homeless shelter. She dreams of an angry homeless man that is very wise. Low and behold he showed up at the shelter. Deborah tells her husband to befriend him. It took time and several tries but he finally makes friends with him and the story begins. I don’t want to spoil the story so I will stop there.

I will say that the homeless man taught me two things I hope to not forget:

  1. We are all homeless, just looking for the way Home. Everyone has a past we are not proud of and we are homeless because this world is not our home. We need to look beyond what we see (race, status, education) and realize that God is the only way home. We are all the same kind of different and we need to come together to help each other make it home.
  2. Some people need to have the “hell” loved out of them.  Sometimes, we must look deep, really deep to find the good in people. But it is there. We can’t give up on them. Keep loving them until they find the God that loves them.

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Same Kind of Different Touches all Emotions

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Same Kind of Different is based on the book written by the actual people that experienced this God Story. It has some great actors like Jon Voight, Greg Kinnear, and Renne’ Zellweger. You will also love a beautiful song by Brad Paisley, Stubborn Angels.

Brad Paisley’s Stubborn Angel

True Story Told by Those who Experienced it.

If you are more of a book reader than a moviegoer, you can pick the book up in hardcover, softcover, Kindle, audiobook or CD MP3. There’s is even a children’s version to help you teach your children about kindness.

Mandy Farmer
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The Greatest Legacy: A Father’s Love

Welcome to June’s Legacy Link Up! But First, Read Stacey Shannon’s account of a legacy of love. Link-up at the bottom.

By: Stacey A. Shannon

Catch Me When I Fall

One of my first memories of my dad is of him catching me. I was an accident-prone child. In the first five years of my life, I broke a bone each year during the most ordinary types of things. When I was 5, I fell off a big wheel and broke my right arm. It was the worst break of them all. I remember not long after, I had a big plaster cast on my arm and started to fall again – this time into the picnic table outside. Just before I hit, strong arms stopped me.

Strong Arms

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Stacey with her Dad

Throughout my entire life, those strong arms have been there to support me. Only now as an adult do I even begin to understand the sacrifice and strength behind my father’s love. My dad has always been a quiet guy. Growing up, he didn’t talk all that much, and he also didn’t smile all that much. He worked long hours. I just thought that was his personality. In middle school, I started learning more about his story. My dad, who had been drafted into the Vietnam War, was battling with PTSD.

Vietnam War & PTSD

I did lots of research about the Vietnam War and PTSD as a college student. As a magazine major, I had the freedom a few times to pick article topics, so I interviewed other veterans about what they had faced in the war and afterward. I heard snippets here and there from my parents, but not all that much. My dad also didn’t want to talk about Vietnam. It was a topic that was mostly off limits.

What I learned most from my research is how strong my dad really is. While I knew his physical strength, I didn’t quite understand his mental strength until I did research and talked to other veterans.

Dad Paid a Price

I didn’t know as a child the price my dad paid when we went to see fireworks each Fourth of July. I didn’t know how much energy it took for him to show up at every single school event in the midst of all he was dealing with. I didn’t know how much effort he had to put forth just to function and be a dad and husband.

I Never Doubted His Love

Of course, he wasn’t perfect and had his flaws. But never once in my life have I doubted my father’s love or his support. Not one single time. I nearly lost him when I was in my mid-20s. He had complications from injuries sustained during a motorcycle accident. It’s been 15 years since then and I continue to be grateful for every moment we have together. I am grateful to be able to see him love on my children, who were born a few years after his accident.

Almost Lost Him

His accident gave him a second chance on life. He was able to be freer from his PTSD struggle than he has been since he returned home from the jungle. He still deals with effects of PTSD, but he smiles much more easily these days and talks more often. He plays with my children, my niece and nephews and loves them fiercely, just as he always has my brother and me.

Legacy of Love

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In the midst of pain, my dad has created a legacy of love. His love helps me understand the sacrificial love of my heavenly Father. I see the sacrifices he made (and know there are plenty I know nothing about) to love his family and provide for us in every way even when it was costing him significantly.

That love is what I want to pass on to my own children. I don’t struggle with PTSD, but I have my own challenges through chronic health problems. I hope and pray my children will never doubt my love or support, just as I have never done with my father. That is a legacy I want to pass on for generations to come.

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Stacey Shannon @

Families with Grace, Stacey Shannon

It’s Your Turn

Legacy Linkup
Join the Link UP June 10-30

We invite you to link up with us and share a post about the men who inspire you.

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Link-ups Coming Summer of 2019

MAY – Legacies of Women Click through to read the posts!

JUNE – Celebrating Men with Legacies – You are here now!

JULY – Leaving a Legacy Through Blended Families

AUGUST – Leaving a Legacy Through Adoption

Be ready to share your stories with us.

Mandy Farmer
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Celebrating Men and Their Legacy

Legacy Defined

1 : a gift by will especially of money or other personal property : bequest She left us a legacy of a million dollars. 2 : something transmitted by or received from an ancestor or predecessor or from the past the legacy of the ancient philosophers The war left a legacy of pain and suffering.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/legacy

We’ve been talking about Legacy this summer. I thought we might want to define what a legacy is. According to the above, anything we leave behind whether it be money, property, or memories and emotions.

I believe the most important thing to leave behind is not cash and property. These things do not last. But the spiritual legacy we leave lasts forever.

Legacies Left By Women

I was thrilled to read about all the legacy stories of women in our lives last month. There were several of us that have been inspired by Elisabeth Elliot and evidently many of us were sure to read the posts about her. The most read post, Do The Next Thing by Beth Willis Miller wrote about Elisabeth Elliott as well including Elisabeth poem by the same name. If you haven’t read it, be sure to click and read it.

The Women’s Legacy Link-up is closed for additional links; however, you can still go read all of them if you missed them.

Are We Creating Weak Men?

In my opinion, men have been beaten down and disrespected too much in our society. In an effort to increase equality for women we have created an atmosphere where the legacy of men does not matter. Everywhere we turn women are being praised and lifted high but men are ignored and treated as if they have nothing to share. It is no wonder that young boys are not finding value in life. They are not encouraged to make anything of themselves.

Dr. James Dobson said,

“Nations that are populated largely by immature, immoral, weak-willed, cowardly, and self-indulgent men cannot and will not long endure. These types of men include those who sire and abandon their children; who cheat on their wives; lie, steal, and covet; who hate their countrymen; and who serve no god but money. That is the direction culture is taking today’s boys.” 

― James C. Dobson, Bringing Up Boys

What’s the Difference?

While in the ministry, my husband and I always enjoyed putting together a celebration celebrating women on Mother’s Day and Men on Father’s Day. It was strange to me that for Mother’s Day I could ask and receive many very nice gifts (and sometimes expensive) for door prizes. But it was like pulling teeth to get businesses to donate for Father’s Day. It just didn’t seem to be as important. I don’t get it. Why do we not value the great men in our lives?

Let’s Celebrate the Legacy of Men

This month we will celebrate Father’s Day. So let’s celebrate some of the men who have left or are leaving great legacies behind for the men to follow. This could be your dad or grandfather or even a step father. Below I will give you examples of men who have inspired me.

1. My Father

My father was a dairy farmer. A kind and compassionate man. He loved giving great big bear hugs, still does. However, he says that I was the one who taught him to hug. That story is on my memoirs blog, Raised in a Barn.

I respect my father and hold him high on a pedestal. In his day, he was a great leader. Not only did he teach and lead at church as a layman, but he was also a community leader. He is still a member of the Gideons International. Most of us have encountered the Gideons and may have a Gideon Bible to prove it.

Dad also led on the school boards both in our community in Ohio and then again in Wisconsin until all six of his children graduated from high school. I am confident that Dad led the way for many actions on the board. However, as a kid, the one thing I enjoyed the most: he initiated the idea to serve chocolate milk in the schools. Cool!

He was always proud of his kids. His kids lived respectable lives mainly because he never let us get by without being obedient and respectful. I’m proud to say that all of us turned out to be upstanding citizens with a great work ethic.

There are many things my dad would quote like “Who left the lights on? Do you think we own the electric company?” (Actually, since it was a co-op, I guess we did own it. ha!) But here’s my favorite. It always showed me his pride for his family; never any regret for having six children. And how much he loves us.

Children are a gift from the Lord;
    they are a reward from him.
Children born to a young man
    are like arrows in a warrior’s hands.
How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them!
    He will not be put to shame when he confronts his accusers at the city gates.

Psalm 127:3-5 NLT

2. Biblical Men Who Inspire Me

It’s hard to really nail down any one man in the Bible who inspired me the most. But King David is right up at the top of the list. I am ever so grateful for his writings in the Psalms. I run to them nearly every day. David wrote his feelings out and when I read them, I feel he has read my mind.

David’s life proves that no matter what you go through God is always there beside you. God has got your back and your front and your head. I call this “The God Sandwich”. It’s a group hug with only you, God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. We can’t feel more love than this… completely covered by His love.

You go before me and follow me.
    You place your hand of blessing on my head.

Psalm 139:5 NLT

David’s Life Inspires Me

Isn’t it also comforting to know that the man who was “a man after God’s own heart” was also susceptible to sin? This fact encourages me because it shows me that we all can falter even those close to God. But here’s the key: When Nathan rebuked David about his sin, David immediately repented. David Left a legacy that we can follow, a man/woman after God’s own heart.

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3. Just a Few Good Men of Legacy

Again, finding just one to speak of is too difficult for my mind. God has placed great men all down through history. Men who have preached the Word. I think of John Wesley, Charles Spurgeon, and Billy Graham who had throngs of people wanting to hear their messages. These men led millions to salvation. Great revivals broke out because of their obedience to God.

And men who have lived out the Word, such as missionaries Jim Elliot and David Livingston.

Business Men Creating Legacy

  • David Green made waves in 2014 when Hobby Lobby defeated the federal government’s requirement that closely held companies cover certain types of birth control medication and procedures that many Christians believe are abortifacients. Green’s 680 craft stores always close on Sunday.
  • Dan Cathy became the CEO of Chick-fil-A after his father, S. Truett Cathy, passed away in 2014. Truett Cathy started in the restaurant business in 1946 and opened his first Chick-Fil-A in Atlanta in 1967. He was a conservative Christian who, like Hobby Lobby’s David Green, chose to have his restaurants closed on Sundays.
  • Read Newsmax: 4 Current Most Successful Christians in Business | Newsmax.com 

4. And Men who Use their Talents for God

Tim Tebow, a football player who took a lot of flack for giving God glory at the ball games. His football career gave him the platform to share Christianity all over the world. He founded an organization to serve children, sharing God’s love… “by fighting for those who cannot fight for themselves.”

Every year he sponsors a prom for the handicapped called “Night to Shine”. In 2018 alone, 537 churches nationwide and in 16 countries, supported by 175,000 volunteers, celebrated 90,000 kings and queens at Night to Shine, an unforgettable prom night experience, centered on God’s love, for people with special needs. See the Tim Tebow Foundation.

Huck’s Heroes

I love the Segment, Huck’s Heroes on The Huckabee Show. Every week he celebrates someone who is living out the love of Christ in their community. Here’s one that recently aired.

Where are the Good Men?

These days, We can become discouraged when we look around. It seems the devil is winning and no one is serving the Lord anymore. But the more things changes, the more they stay the same really. All down through history, it would seem that evil would prevail. Take encouragement from the account from Elijah in 1 Kings 19,

And a voice said, “What are you doing here, Elijah?”
14 He replied again, “I have zealously served the Lord God Almighty. But the people of Israel have broken their covenant with you, torn down your altars, and killed every one of your prophets. I am the only one left, and now they are trying to kill me, too.”
15 Then the Lord told him, “Go back the same way you came and travel to the wilderness of Damascus. When you arrive there, anoint Hazael to be king of Aram.16 Then anoint Jehu grandson of Nimshi[b] to be king of Israel, and anoint Elisha son of Shaphat from the town of Abel-meholah to replace you as my prophet.17 Anyone who escapes from Hazael will be killed by Jehu, and those who escape Jehu will be killed by Elisha! 18 Yet I will preserve 7,000 others in Israel who have never bowed down to Baal or kissed him!”

1 Kings 19

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There is always a remnant

Remember, you are not alone. God is preserving His church for that glorious day when He returns to gather His children. Keep the faith, my friend. You are not alone. Hold to the Lord. Remember what Paul wrote to the Philippians, even while in prison.

Live as Citizens of Heaven


27 Above all, you must live as citizens of heaven, conducting yourselves in a manner worthy of the Good News about Christ. Then, whether I come and see you again or only hear about you, I will know that you are standing together with one spirit and one purpose, fighting together for the faith, which is the Good News.28 Don’t be intimidated in any way by your enemies. This will be a sign to them that they are going to be destroyed, but that you are going to be saved, even by God himself. 29 For you have been given not only the privilege of trusting in Christ but also the privilege of suffering for him. 30 We are in this struggle together. You have seen my struggle in the past, and you know that I am still in the midst of it.

Philippians 1:27-30
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Legacy Link-Up is Open til June 30

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Hope to see you there!

Mandy Farmer

P.S. Coming Soon

This summer we will also be celebrating the Legacy of Blended Families in July and The Legacy of Adoption in August. If either of these topics applies to you, we would love for you to participate in the link-up expected to open the second week of each month.

I will also feature a blog on each link-up. If you would like to be the featured guest writer, please contact Mandy through the Contact us page.

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My Peace Through the Storm

Hurricane Season is approaching

In Savannah, we all know what it is like to be awakened in the night with blaring horns warning us that there are severe storms in the area. I recall into the midwest that storms and tornado warnings could come upon us quickly as well. Either way, it’s a frightening experience.

Just like in a tropical storm, we have no control of where or how the storms come in our lives. It may barrel straight through us or it might skirt around us. Some storms may be strong and dangerous and others are slow and become just a thunderstorm or even just a bit of rain. One never knows.

Isn’t Living For Christ a Cake Walk?

We would like to think that if we are following the Lord, life’s path will take us through smooth sailing. But this is not true. The Bible says, “In this life, we will have trouble.” (John 16:33) The Promise we do have is safety through the storm.

Oh, how we must learn that God is faithful through the storm.

God Sees us THROUGH the Storm

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He will be right there with us, our haven. His path will help us grow and learn. We will be strengthened to face another day. He provides for our every need in every situation. There is Hope in the Hard Places.


We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed

2 Corinthians 4:8-9 ESV

But now thus says the Lord, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.

Isaiah 43:1-2 ESV

Why do we worry and fret and not live in the peace that He offers us? Why do we allow the projected path of a storm to get us all worked up? We aren’t showing the world a reason to follow Christ if we fret and worry over our situation.

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But when we have peace in the storm, THAT is when people stop and wonder what it is that makes us so calm. This is when we exemplify the peace that Christ provides. 

When we have peace in the storm, THAT is when people stop and wonder what it is that makes us so calm. #peace Click To Tweet

Let’s rest in Him through our trials so that He gets the glory and we get the peace that passes all understanding.

Enjoy This Hymn Favorite

P.S. I’ve been introducing the old hymns lately. This seems like a good time to share a hymn…

“There is Peace in the Midst of the Storm”

When the world that I’ve been
Living in collapses at my feet
And when my life is all tattered and torn
Though I’m wind-swept, I’ve been battered
I’m gonna cling unto His cross
I’ll find peace in the midst of the storm
(Is that alright?)

There is peace in the midst of the storm-tossed life
There is an Anchor, there is a rock to build my faith upon
Jesus Christ is my vessel so I fear no alarm
He gives me peace in the midst of the storm

-by Stephen Adams

Peace in the Midst of the Storm: Performed by The Brooklyn Tabernacle Choir

Mandy Farmer
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There is a Haven

Originally posted on GGMandy.com  for the five-minute writing challenge. Write for 5 minutes unedited on a specified topic. The prompt … HAVEN

It rained yesterday.

Dark billows covered the sun and dropped water heavy from the sky and then more before the wipers could clear our windshield. Lightning flashed around us like paparazzi while thunder shook the windows.

We pulled into a parking space and waited for the storm to subside and then stepped out into pools of rushing, swirling water looking for already full drains. The rain fell on our faces as we rushed to a safe  and dry place. We shook our heads and wiped our arms of excess water and found a place to sit and rest.

In Savannah, this is a normal summer afternoon experience.

And isn’t it also for our lives?  Daily trials present themselves, stresses at work, disputes with neighbors, disagreements at home, laundry piling up, bills to pay, and possibly illness. And we haven’t even turned on the news yet. Sometimes we see the storm building; other times, it catches us off guard.

All we really want is a place to escape. A place of quietude and rest with no interruptions. #haven #fmfparty Click To Tweet

There’s good news, my friend. There is such a haven.

It’s in Jesus Christ the Lord. He’s the only only who can calm the storms around us and the storms within. We just have to receive Him. He’s been there, done that. Let Him calm your storm.

The most precious time for me is those few minutes spent with Him sometime during the day. You might think there is no time for that, but I promise you, if you give Christ the first few minutes of Your day, He will bless the rest of it.

Take him along with you, read some scripture while you wait for your lunch or picking up your child from school. [I like the Psalms. One of my favorites is Psalm 34]

Find that haven by going to God and giving Him your heartaches.

Breathe in His presence.

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Mandy Farmer

Enjoy this Old-time Favorite

There is a Haven by the Cathedrals

Author: Dianne Wilkinson.
Copyright: © 1991 Homeward Bound Music (BMI). Used by Permission.
Album: The Best of Times (1991)

1. There is a Haven for every weary traveler
When the storm breaks the stillness of the night
There is a safe place for all the lost and lonely
To find shelter until the morning light

(Chorus)
There is a Haven for the weary soul to run to
When you’re tired of all the guilt and all the shame
There is a Savior and His open arms are waiting
There is a Haven and Jesus is His name

2. There is a Haven of comfort for God’s children
You can find it when you speak His name in prayer
He’ll give you rest, then, from all your cares and labors
There’s a Haven, and the Lord will lead you there

Repeat Chorus

The above lyrics were excerpted from the following link

https://www.danielmount.com/research/cathedral-quartet/lyrics/there-is-a-haven/
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How To Start A Fire In Your Kitchen

Generally speaking, “How to start a fire in your kitchen” is not a positive title to start a food column with, but it’s ratings week- do what will get you noticed!  Now that I have your attention and probably my insurance agents as well as the fire chief, I will try and keep this simple…

Fire, fire, burning bright

I was multitasking (talking on the phone, cooking, and scanning FB) and I decided I wanted hash browns for supper.  So I grabbed a skillet and some vegetable oil.  Poured the vegetable oil in and turned on the burner and put a lid on the skillet.  Simple enough, but I have been known to take simplicity to complicated levels frustrating my parents, teachers and my husband.

After what only seemed like a moment, well maybe several moments strung together, I pulled out my hash browns and laid them on the counter.  Looking down at the covered skillet I was surprised to see what looked like smoke inside the skillet.  Weird!?  Lifting the lid off the skillet,  I set the lid on the counter next to the stove, looked back to the skillet just in time to see it IGNITE! BOOF!

Stunned, my mouth dropped open and I said to myself “I think you found the flash point of vegetable oil!  DO. SOMETHING. QUICK!”  The best I could muster was to yell “HELP Brad!” and grab the skillet handle and take it off the stove.                     

Stop Drop and Roll

As I was moving away from the stove the flames were growing higher and higher (fire loves oxygen). Brad wasn’t answering my calls for help, so “Flight or Fright” kicked in and I quickly made the decision to put the skillet into the sink. First I thought I should have opened the patio door and threw it outside, but the rising flames convinced me otherwise. Now that the skillet was in the sink my mind gave me two options: water or smother.

At first, my instinct was to want to put water on it, but I quickly remembered the demonstration I had seen of what happens when you add water to an oil fire (thank you Ms. Arverson! My high school, chemistry class teacher). Then as quickly as I thought of that I remembered that this type of fire was needing to be smothered. So I grabbed a dish towel, got it soaking wet and threw it on top of the oil bonfire in the skillet.

At this point Brad comes storming into the kitchen, a fashion complexity to be sure. He was all business on top and at-home- casual on the bottom. I am sure he thought I was trying out some new cool recipe like bananas foster, or a baked Alaska flambe. But to his great disappointment, NOPE! This was just your average, run of the mill, supper time flash point fire. I think every couple needs to have a good skillet fire just to test the merits of their relationship.

How do you manage to do this kind of stuff?

Brad backs me away from the decreasing flames and makes sure the skillet is completely covered by the wet dish towel. Seeing that the flames are extinguished, I let out a sigh of relief. Brad, with a very serious look, says “So, just what were you doing?” To which I replied, ” I thought I would find the flash point of vegetable oil?” Unimpressed he rolled his eyes and surveyed the damage.

My favorite fry pan had some serious scorch marks on the inside and outside of the pan. The sink sustained some scorch marks also. I was relieved that I didn’t get burned and that the flames didn’t start anything else on fire.

Some handy tips

I found a great article online by Rikki Roehrich, a FireRescue1 contributor. Rikki reports that

” Cooking causes over 160,000 home structure fires, annually, and is considered the number one cause of home fires and home injuries. Of the 160,000 annual cooking fires, two-thirds (66 percent) started with the ignition of food or other cooking materials. Often, these fires are ignited by grease.” He also listed a few tips which I will share with you now.

IF A GREASE FIRE STARTS:

  1. Cover the flames with a metal lid or cookie sheet. Leave the cover on until it has cooled.
  2. Turn off the heat source. 
  3. If it’s small and manageable, pour baking soda or salt on it to smother the fire.
  4. As a last resort, spray the fire with a Class B dry chemical fire extinguisher.
  5. Do not try to extinguish the fire with water.
  6. Do not attempt to move the pot or pan outside. 

After that theatrical cooking segment, I decided that we would have instant potatoes, which were much less dramatic in their production. All’s well that ends well.

Michele

P.S. And There’s More: Mandy’s Kitchen Fire Story

Finally, My jelly was made… I began melting down some paraffin in a saucepan on the stove. Read more…

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What We Love About Summer

What Memorial Day is All About

 

And Now, for the Fun Stuff Back By Popular Demand

Though we may live in different parts of the United States we wanted to share with you what we love and enjoy about summer from the prairies of Minnesota to the seas of Georgia!  We hope everyone is looking forward to warmer weather!

what do you like best about summer?

Mandy: As a child growing up on a family dairy farm, summers weren’t really that great. If we weren’t in school, we were working on the farm. Some of the things we did were, Picking up rocks, baling hay, managing two large gardens. I did enjoy sitting on the porch snapping peas with Grandma though. (In retrospect, summers were awesome.) My friends all thought I had the life and now I wish I could have raised my kids on the farm. What I did enjoy were cattle shows and church camp. Wonderful memories were built at these places. If you are interested, check out my Memoirs blog posts,

Now the seasons pretty much run together and summers in Savannah are pretty hot. I try to stay home and cool. I’ll tell you what my kids love to do though … The Beach. Here’s a post after we rented a beach house for a week. For me, I much prefer the fall. 🙂

Michele:  What I like best about summer is the ability to be outside and enjoy the sights and sounds of birds, green prairie, crickets, frogs, the Blue Heron in the creek, kittens playing in the barn, gardening. Go walking, biking, having campfires, late-night patio star gazing… ahhhhhh!

 

What is your favorite childhood memory about summer?

Michele: My favorite childhood memories of summer are the Friesland Band Concert and Pie Social.  Every Tuesday night.  Pie, ice cream and the grocery store was open.  Plus Trotz’s had their sno-cones and popcorn that they sold out of their garage! YUMMY

Mandy:  Ah yes! After my family moved to Wisconsin, we attended The Friesland Band Concert every Tuesday night also Those really were the days. I don’t remember sno-cones but someone sold cotton candy. Our 4-H club sold pie and ice cream on one of those Tuesdays.  And, don’t tell anyone, it was where I got my first kiss. 🙂 Also, July fourth was a really big deal with fireworks behind the church.

The early years in Ohio, were just plain good, running and playing on the farm, even if we did have to do chores. I always loved attending family camp. The girls got to go and stay all week. We “helped” Mom run the bookstore at camp. Dad and the boys, went back and forth to milk the cows and come to camp for as many services as they were able. Those were the days for me, especially since that is where I gave my heart and life to Christ.

My favorite summer was made ironically because of a tragedy. In February of 1970, we had a barn fire. The cattle were saved but the barn was a total loss. That summer the Amish came and built the barns back. You’ll find my story on my memoirs blog, Raised in a Barn, My  Most Unforgettable Summer.

what family traditions do you have during the summer?

Mandy: Memorial Day was always the day we headed to my father’s original home of George’s Run, Ohio to the annual Hukill Family reunion. (my great great grandmother & her siblings started this way back.) Though one of us kids usually got sick riding up and down the hilly roads, once we arrived we had a wonderful time with cousins, aunts and uncles, and my great grandmother on Aunt Julia’s farm. My great Aunt Mildred, made the most delicious “dumplings” though they aren’t anything like what we call dumplings down here in the south. I sure wish I knew how to make them. And there was always ice cream cones. Yummy! Here’s a post on my memoirs blog on How to Spend Memorial Day

I love all the festivals every little small town seems to have. I think you could probably find one every summer weekend if you tried. Let’s see, in Georgia, there’s

In Wisconsin, I enjoyed the Korn Kanival in Randolph, WI and the Watermelon Festival in Pardeeville, WI. (Yes, you read that right – Pardeeville – Founded by some guy named Pardee). I already mentioned the family reunion on Memorial Day above which still happens today but they meet at the church nearby.

All the greats have gone on to heaven, but it’s good to see the cousins again. And that Korn

festivals, fairs, summer fun

Alice in Dairyland at the Korn Karnival

Karnival happens on Labor Day Weekend. They would steam the corn in the shucks at one of the canning factories and bring it by the truckload to the park. Then dump it out on a tarp on the ground. Peel back the shucks and dip it in melted butter. Oh, my goodness, it’s to die for.

Michele:  Both, Brad and my families are not big on traditions/getting together, so we pretty much just float and see what the day brings us.  We work on different projects and then cookout.

 

What are some favorite food and drinks in the summer?

Mandy: I always enjoy grilling out in the summer. (We do it all year in Georgia) Shaved Ice and lemonade can really hit the spot. As a kid, I would take a rootbeer float any time it was offered. And on that note – homemade ice cream – my favorite! As you have figured out by now, I am a big fan of ice cream. I got that gene from my dad! 🙂

Michele: I love to make sun tea, do lots of grilling of foods, smoking chicken wings, eating on the patio.  Ice cream is a favorite, but I enjoy ice cream all year around.

 

What’s your favorite memorial day or Labor day?

Mandy: They are both good days just to hang out with family. I love when the kids come over and we grill steaks, make homemade ice cream and play board games. There is nothing better than hearing the laughter of my children around the table. Sublime.

And don’t forget the Fourth of July. We still have the same format except we add in the fireworks.

.. and our oldest son’s birthday!

Michele: I like Labor Day best… celebrating the end of summer, tomatoes coming out of the garden, our good friends usually spend the weekend, and it means FALL is on its way!

 

Finally, Any special events or trips in your summer 2019?

Mandy: No plans really. We’ll be here in Savannah, Georgia. We live just outside of Savannah, in Pooler, near the airport and right at the intersection of I16 and I95 so if you are headed to Florida, please stop in or give us a call and we will meet you at any of the hundreds of restaurants or the Tanger Mall.

Or just come to Savannah. We’ll take you on a tour of the historic district. Savannah has quite a history. I learn something new every time we take the tour. After that, we can spend a day at Tybee Island and enjoy a quiet day at the beach.

I don’t have an extra bedroom; however, AirBNB’s are available nearby… even one right in our community. A whole condo, all to yourself. And a community pool. My roommate from my single days is coming this week! When are you coming?

Michele: No special plans for summer trips.  We will be finishing up our barn project, installing new doors, stain, and varnish… and don’t forget the trim work… it never ends when you own a house.

 

Well, folks, that’s about it for now.

We would love to know what you love about summer and what plans you have. Please leave a comment below.
Here’s a thought: leave us questions to answer in our fall edition of About Us.

Mandy & Michele

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book review, lies, truth

Debunking the Lies that Confuse the Truth

I stood there confused before our two boys as they each wove their own tale about what caused their most recent altercation. New at this mothering thing, I acted on my own determination to always listen to all sides of the story before deciding on who received punishment. It was something I determined back when I felt I was being unfairly punished.

But I was fast learning that this plan led only to more confusion and lies. I wasn’t able to sift through their stories and find the truth at all. Their stories were not matching up. There was little truth to be found.

I don’t think I ever really figured out how to get to the bottom of things between the boys. They used both paid the penalty though sometimes the truth could be seen by looking in their eyes.

Oh, the Tangled Web

Today’s society seems to weave the same kind of tales to catch us in their web of deceit in order to have their own way and to justify the life they want to lead. It’s nearly impossible now to find the truth anywhere. Certainly, not in the media and sometimes, not even from smooth talking preachers who like to bend the Word of God for their own advantage. The Bible warns us against such.

For such men are false apostles, deceitful workmen, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So it is no surprise if his servants, also, disguise themselves as servants of righteousness. Their end will correspond to their deeds.

2 Corinthians 11:13-15

So, where do we look for the Truth?

1. Turn to God


If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

James 1:15

King Solomon knew where to find wisdom. He was now the new King of Israel. And the first thing he did was ask God for Wisdom. God made him the wisest king ever and gave him much more for having his priorities straight. We need to follow Solomon’s example. Pray for wisdom.

“I have not stopped thanking God for you. I pray for you constantly, asking God, the glorious Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, to give you spiritual wisdom and insight so that you might grow in your knowledge of God.”

– Ephesians 1:16-17

As Paul prayed for the church in Ephesus, I pray Christ gives you spiritual wisdom that you may grow in your faith and knowledge of Him. I pray your heart remains humble and teachable and that you always look to Jesus as your wisdom.

2. Seek Wise & Godly Counsel

These are the ones from whom we should be asking godly counsel. I’d start with your pastor, your parents. or church leaders and then from books written by godly leaders who won’t lead you astray.

Be careful about the books you read. Be certain that the author is credible in the area in which you need wisdom. Again, ask trusted leaders which authors they trust. Some author’s reputation goes before them and there is no doubt. For instance, I doubt that you would worry about being led astray by Rev. Billy Graham.

As you read and study, pray each time and ask God for His guidance. Ask God to raise up flags if there are questionable thoughts and attitudes. He will lead you in the right direction.

You Might Start Here to Find Truth

Book Cover Lies Women Believe

The Women at our Church began a study of Nancy Demoss Wolgemuth’s updated and expanded book, Lies Women Believe and the Truth that Sets Them Free. I would suggest that this book is an excellent resource to debunk Satan’s (and Society’s) lies.

Nancy wrote the first edition of this book ten years ago. But things have changed a lot and she wanted to speak on those changes and in some cases more clearly share her thoughts based on Biblical precepts.

45 Lies Exposed

Nancy exposes 45 lies that woman are accepting hook, line, and sinker today by bringing out scriptures that tell us the TRUTH. She divides them into several categories.

  • Lies about trusting God
  • Seeing Myself as God Sees Me
  • Understanding Sin
  • Setting Priorities
  • Understanding God’s Design for Sexuality (a completely new section written with the help of author Dannah 0resh)
  • Lies about Honoring God in My Marriage
  • Raising Children
  • Handling Emotions
  • Dealing With Circumstances
  • Walking in Freedom

Extensive Coverage of Satan’s Lies

As you can see, Nancy has covered it all rather extensively. And I would submit that the first topic of trusting God probably gets right to the basic problem. We don’t trust God with our lives. Do we REALLY believe that God is Good and that He loves us implicitly? Can we REALLY be complete in God?

Nancy will take you through the scriptures and prove point by point that Satan is a liar and the author of confusion. She will present to you the TRUTH and back it all up with God’s Word.

I was given a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. I am not being paid to write this or being told what to say.

What Lies Are You Believing?

It’s likely that there is a chapter or two here for you. You may be surprised at which lies you have swallowed whole. I would encourage you to pick up this updated and expanded version of her book and start reading it soon.

Oh, and be sure to purchase the workbook along with it. This will help you go deep into The Word and Find the “Truth That Sets You Free”.

Finding the Truth in Him;

Mandy Farmer

P.S. Have you read my other Nancy Demoss Wolgemuth book review?

I loved this deep study of the Titus 2 Woman, Adorned. The best study of Titus 2 I have found. ADORNED: Living out the Beauty of the Gospel Together


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Prayer, Faith and Patience

Faith and Patience; Patience and Faith

Question: Are our prayers given in faith and patience with confidence or in demand with entitlement? #prayersofachild #faith #patience Click To Tweet

“Therefore, brothers, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus,… let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith…”  

“The Lord is good to those who hope is in Him, to the one who seeks Him;    it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord.”  


 – Hebrews 10:19,22
– Lamentations 3:25-26

Faith & Patience

A few months ago we had planned a family camping trip to celebrate our oldest son’s birthday. It turned unseasonably cold (for Mississippi in November)  so we decided to rent cabins instead. All six adults and three grandchildren were gathered in the living were of one cabin, ready to share a meal together.

We joined hands and asked, “Who wants to pray?”

and Grantlee, our two-year-old grandson said, “Me!”


We bowed our heads. Grantlee closed his eyes, and with the most serious of expressions on his face, prayed the following words.

“I Grantlee Atchison, and I want it now. Amen.”

All of us burst out into laughter because it was cute and funny.

Kids! You just never know what they will say or do! 

But Don’t We Act the Same?

Later, I was telling my prayer group of our cute little grandson’s prayer. As we laughed, we suddenly realized a sobering thought:  Isn’t that the way we do God? We come to Him in prayer, and whether our words are eloquent or simple, we often convey this message.

Dear God, this is what I want and when I want it. Please hurry. Amen." #childsprayer #patience Click To Tweet

A Child Shall Lead Them

Oh, it is so humbling to be preached to by a toddler. Since that fun-filled evening, I have reflected many times on Grantlee’s innocent, heartfelt, powerful prayer. “I want it now. Amen.” I laugh, but then I think, really think.
Hebrews 10:19-22 assures us that we can approach God’s throne of grace with confidence. Lamentations 3:25-26 reminds us that we must wait, and the Lord will deliver an answer. 

Faith and Patience Prayer

Now, when I remember that little prayer, I bow my head and say, “Lord, You know what I want and when I want it. But You also know that what I need most is what You want in Your time and Your way. Keep me asking, but waiting on You with faithful patience. Amen.”

-Glenae Atchison

Other thoughts on Prayer

93 Years of Marriage: An Heirloom Wedding Gown

My daughter celebrates her first year of marriage this Sunday. I’ve been wanting to share about her wedding gown all this time. Finally! Here’s the story starting at the beginning in 1957. Canton, Ohio

Restored wedding gown,
Mikaela and Ethan, May 18, 2018

The Bride Wore a Satin and Lace Wedding Gown

April 21, 1956 – East Sparta Methodist Church – The bride wore Satin and Chantilly lace with a cathedral length train and a fingertip veil. The gown was handmade by the bride, Elaine Easterday. (my mother). The hem was so long that she has all her bridesmaids come over and help her finish the hem before the wedding. She married a handsome dairy farmer, Gene Dawson, from Louisville, Ohio. They said “standing room only” with over 400 guests attending. {Mom said the cost was $36}

1957 Gene and Elaine
original wedding gown made by Elaine, worn by daughter and  granddaughter
Gene & Elaine April 21, 1956

Off to Finish College

Gene had one more year at Ohio State University School of Agriculture. So they moved their few belongings down to Columbus, Ohio. Wedding gifts and such were packed away in the attic of the family farm. The gown was packed along with a few other special gowns in a cedar chest made by Gene’s brother, George.

family farmhouse
The Dawson Farm in Lousiville, Ohio before 1957

Fire Destroys the Family Farmhouse

March 1957 Louisville, Ohio – Elaine went to the farm and collected a few serving items to throw a birthday party for her beloved husband. She was now expecting their first child. It was the last she would see of her wedding gifts as a few days later, a fire would engulf the 3 story home and gut it completely.

farm house destroyed by fire
1957 after the fire

Upon surveying the damage, they saw the cedar chest high up on a beam. They knocked it down and it fell to the basement. The lid broke open to reveal her perfectly preserved wedding dress! No burnt ends or even the smell of smoke. (Just like Shadrack, Meshack, and Abednego! – Read Daniel 3)

The dresses were returned to the cedar chest and there they remained in the cedar chest for the next 32 years, except for a few times to just take a look. Like Mary’s little lamb, the chest went everywhere Gene & Elaine went. Their first home in Wooster, OH; Then two other rental farms in Louisville before moving back the homeplace. In 1975, the family, cows, and cedar chest moved to Cambria, Wisconsin.

Daughter Marries A “Farmer”

December 31, 1989 – Columbia, SC – Daughter, Amanda (me) marries Pastor Michael Farmer. Just a funny side note that has nothing to do with the gown, I said I would “NEVER marry a farmer or a pastor.” God has a sense of humor… I married Pastor Farmer. ha!

However, I always wanted to wear mom’s gown when I married; so I had mom bring it to me in Detroit, Michigan in October of 1989. We were together for my brother’s wedding. It was a bit snug on me but mom had left the seam allowances so a church friend, Gabriella, did the work to make it fit! {Cost: $36}

Michael & I married in West Columbia, SC on New Year’s Eve 1989 with over 300 in attendance. As we headed to San Deigo, CA for our honeymoon, Mom took the gown back to Wisconsin. We met them there a week later for a 2nd reception with the home folks.

Then we headed to Barnesville, GA were Michael was already pastoring. And the gown headed to the cleaners for preserving. {cost: $36} Michael & I did a bit of moving ourselves. And the gown followed us everywhere!

  • 1990 – Chattanooga, TN
  • 1992 – Savannah, GA
  • 1997 – Milwaukee, WI
  • 2003 – Moultrie, GA
  • 2015 – Pooler, GA

Fifty Years Celebrated

April 2006 – Randolph Wisconsin – After 50 years of marriage, 6 kids, and many foster children a couple deserves a party, right? We planned a western event for my parents. Our youngest brother, Le, helped us three girls create a CD for our parents. It was entitled “For All You’ve Done”. I brought out the gown so that it could be displayed.

antique wedding gown celebarting 50th anniversary
Mandy and her daughter at Mom and Dad’s 50th

Another Marriage Begins

May 19, 2018 – Savannah, GA – Mikaela and Ethan wed!

wedding gown before alterations
Mikaela in dress before alterations

Mikaela desired to wear the gown as well. She’s just a bitty thing and the gown swallowed her whole! We weren’t sure there was anything that could be down but we began searching for a seamstress.

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But who do you trust with an heirloom such as this?

Who do you trust to alter your heirloom wedding gown? We found her! Click To Tweet

Fortunately, we found an awesome seamstress (in Waycross, GA) who is experienced with antique fabrics. She was excited and willing to update the dress to Mikaela’s style. At our first visit, Mikaela donned the wedding gown and told Mrs. Tammie what she would like. Mrs. Tammie pulled and pinned and tugged and offered ideas. Then we left the dress in her hands for about 3 months. (Hurricane Harvey plowed through Waycross during that time but the dress was safe.)

The Seamstress Works Her Miracle

January 2018 – First Fitting – It was hard to really visualize what Mrs.Tammie would do with the dress. But when Mikaela stepped from the dressing room tears filled our eyes and excitement filled our souls. {The cost this time, a bit more than $36.}

Ethan’s First Look

The wedding day arrived and sister-in-law, Tina drove to Waycross (about 2 hours) to fetch the gown. It was lovely. Just like Mikaela wanted. Her goal was to make her sweetheart cry. I believe, she succeeded as she entered the sanctuary on her daddy’s arm.

A huge thank you to Mrs. Tammie Thomas of Waycross, GA for doing the redesign. If you need alterations of any type, I definitely recommend her. And so did the girl trying on her third bridesmaid dress when we first arrived. The Okefenokee Living Magazine Spring 2017 featured Mrs. Tammie in their bridal Issue.

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So Much Wedding Gown Fabric Left Over

Mom’s dress was so full. We had seemingly miles of unused fabric. So I started planning some repurposing. My first thought was a purse for Mom and I. And a small purse for Mikaela’s trousseau.

With plenty of fabric remaining still, I created a different style purse for my sisters who also have children preparing to marry. This gave each of us girls a part of mom’s dress to as a keepsake.

Still More Gown Fabric Left

The fabric seemed to multiply like the widow’s oil in 2 Kings 4:1-7. So, the next item we decided to make was a beautiful blessing gown for future grandbabies. No grandbabies will arrive in the near future, but I decided to make it now before the fabric ages more, or it gets lost. So I’ve gone to work on that. It will be waiting for any and all of the great grandbabies of Gene and Elaine to wear at their Baby Dedication. I found this free pattern and directions at See Kate Sew. I still have the finishing touches to do, but here’s what we have so far.

Will the Legend Continue? Who Knows?

The gown will return to it’s home in a cedar chest for years to come. You never know what could happen. But at this point, we have 93 years of good marriage represented in the gown.

Mom & Dad at 63 years, Mike & Mandy at 29 years, Ethan & Mikaela 1 year and we are all still counting.

Mandy Farmer

I’m certain that you know an heirloom wedding gown does not a great marriage make. Below you will find some great reading that may help you in this matter.

For more about the 2018 wedding click here.

wedding vows, redesigned antique wedding gown
Saying their vows led by both fathers.
wedding ceremony; cathedral train