Book Review: Wounded By God’s People

Originally posted on GGMANDY dot com 10-27-16

We tend to think that God’s servants are protected against being wounded, but that is just not true.

As a matter of fact, most ministers of the Word are hurt at least once in their ministry. I so appreciate Anne for being vulnerable and opening up to us about her own life while she teaches us through the life of Hagar how to deal with the hurt.

It is in the story of Hagar, that we find the name of God, El Roi, The God Who Sees Me. He cares so much about each one of us and the plight in which we find ourselves. AND he is watching over us.

What I learned was the God Who Sees Me cares deeply for His own. He sees each and every one of us. The love that He has for us is unfathomable. He has a plan for us but He also allows us to make our own decisions. So He waits for us to call out to Him to rescue Him.

Wounded by the church

Studying the plight of Hagar has helped me face my own situation.

  1. It has taught me to look at where I may have failed.
  2. Anne warns against wounding others in our hurt.
  3. It has taught me that I must forgive regardless of what the other party may or may not do towards repentance and reconciliation.

This book helps anyone who has been hurt not only by the church but by anyone.

In this age where we seem to think everyone is bullying everyone else. I think we need to start looking at how Jesus handled those who bullied Him. “Forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

Have You Been Wounded by Someone? Read this Book.

Expecting Great things;

Mandy Farmer

Below you will find an affiliate link to purchase this book and Nan Jones’ book Perils of a Pastor’s wife. Nan wrote from her experience about being rejected by congregations. Thank you.

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The Perils of a Pastor’s Wife Book Review

Great Book

The Perils of a Pastor’s Wife

by Nan Jones

The Perils of A Pastor’s Wife will speak to your deepest wounds and help you find God’s Presence through it all. Sweet Sister—somewhere, somehow, somebody knows. You are not alone.

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How did I find this book?

In order to do some blogging to assist pastors and wives, I ran a questionnaire a few months ago. Nan Jones was one that answered my questionnaire. I went to her blog to read some of her writings. After reading several of her posts, I decided I should read her book since I was in the same predicament that she was writing about. It was one of the best decisions I have made.

 Who will Benefit from this Book?

Perils ...”  is written to help other pastor’s wives who are dealing with the sad situation of being dismissed by a church. This is something that is happening in alarming numbers these days. While this book was written from the viewpoint of a woman and written for women, I think men could benefit as well. It is a wonderful book for those of us journeying the path of rejection and being in transition (without a “flock”).

My Personal Experience

I found that God used the very same scriptures and resources to inspire Nan as He did me in my journey with chronic pain and then our dismissal from our last church. Hannah Hurnard’s Hinds’ Feet in High Places is an amazing allegory; Ann Voskamp’s book, One Thousand Gifts which set me on the right path for my journey. Her words are so gentle and encouraging. She shows us how to respond and get through it all with grace and (eventual) forgiveness.

Ministers in transition need to buy this book.

-Mandy

Have you been hurt by the church?

Have you felt abandoned by God in the lonely fires of ministry?
The Perils of A Pastor’s Wife will speak to your deepest wounds and help you find God’s Presence through it all.

Sweet Sister—somewhere, somehow, somebody knows. You are not alone.


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Bravely Face Your Pain Until It Becomes a Pearl

I am so excited to introduce you to a good friend of mine. She has just published her own website sharing how her struggles in life including chronic illness are teaching her to allow her pain to become a pearl. Today I am featuring her on the blog. Come read her story and then Link-up your own legacy story.

Introducing Melissa

Melissa is a truth-seeker and a truth-teller who writes and speaks from life experience, testing and growing in the lab of great joys and deep sorrows. Through it all, she has found a closeness with the Father by both wrestling with Him and being still with Him. That has given her a compassion for others that is palpable.

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Pixar’s Movie Coco – Review & Biblical Lessons

Disney’s Movie Coco

I have never been a fan of scary movies or movies about beliefs different from my own. But I do believe that things can be learned from nearly anything. My parents always took the opportunity to discuss movies together with us. We would talk about differences in beliefs. The Bible often became our favorite reference when it came to deciding if Hollywood had the story right. This taught us discernment throughout life. We learned to not always take things at face value.

So, I decided to try to do the same for you and offer some help on how to discuss “family movies” with your family. November 2nd is the traditional Mexican celebration of The Day of the Dead. Let’s talk about the 2017 Disney release of Coco.

Coco Movie Synopsis

This film tells of a 12-year-old boy named Miguel who dreamed of becoming a famous musician like his long-dead idol, Ernesto de la Cruz. He attempted to visit the idol’s funeral and play the de la Cruz heritage guitar on his tombstone.Unfortunately, his actions even took him to a place called Land of the Dead, where the dead are. Poor again, there he will meet with his ancestors who forbid the presence of music in the middle of their family.

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What did I think of the movie?

I was hesitant to watch the movie because of the premise. But I did watch it. Once I got past the going to the Land of the Dead and skeletons and such, I found many valuable lessons that can be learned. I felt plenty of emotions from sadness to joy. Overall, the movie was enjoyable. And I did like the theme of the importance of family.

Sadly, Disney Pixar promotes a lot of “other” religions in their recent films for families. This is dangerous because these ideas and beliefs can find their way into what are children believe as truth. This is an underhanded way that society promotes its “tolerance” world values.

On the other hand, if we use these movies as tools to teach our children, it can be a very good thing. It’s important to have enough openness to listen and learn. When we discuss our beliefs in contrast to the movie, we can teach the truths of our own faith.

Some Questions to Inspire Discussion

The Afterlife

  1. Talk about your ancestors. Who they were/ What they did.
  2. Is it ok to remember your ancestors?
  3. Where do people go when they die? Talk about Heaven and Hell.
  4. Can people really come back to life?
  5. Discuss Jesus’ resurrection/ The rapture/second coming/ Lazarus

The Day of the Dead

  1. Should we build a shrine to our ancestors? Can dead people come back to life and talk with us.
  2. Discuss Jesus’ Parable of Lazarus and the rich man (Luke 16:19-31)
  3. Is it ok to have memorials?
  4. Discuss Joshua building a memorial after crossing the Jordan. (Joshua 3 & 4) How is this memorial different than building a shrine.

Forgiveness/Unforgiveness

  1. Who was unforgiving in the story of Coco?
  2. What kind of problems did it cause in the family?
  3. Discuss these problems and how they could be resolved.
  4. Are there problems in our own life caused by unforgiveness?
  5. Discuss the Parable of the Unforgiving Servant. (Matthew 18:21-35)

Other points on the movie

If you would like other pros and cons about the movie, Focus on the Family has a terrific blog called Plugged-in where you can get a Biblical worldview of movies and other media being offered to our children.

Hope this is helpful. If you would like to see more of these, please comment below.

Mandy Farmer
Disney Pixar Movie review with discussion questions.
Lessons from Movies
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On Unconfessed Sin

Unconfessed sin?

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness… If anybody does sin, we have One who speaks to the Father in our defense–Jesus Christ, the Righteous One. He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world.”
-I John 1:9-2-2

Does anyone else recall a conversation like this?

Adult: “Who did this?!”
Child: “It wasn’t me!”

It’s exasperating when someone named Not Me is always to blame! We wish they’d ” ‘fess up,” as the old saying goes; they won’t admit it for fear of consequences.

Yet don’t we as adults behave similarly with God?

Maybe we have spoken harshly to another, are slightly less than honest in a situation, are holding a grudge, or we even withhold love from someone. We think we’re justified in our actions until God convicts us of our sin.

Then what?

Well, then we should confess. Once we admit our sin, the Lord will forgive us, and our heart and soul are relieved of trying to hide what God Almighty already knows.

I once heard a woman in a prayer circle pray this prayer:

“Lord, take anything out of my heart that don’t need to be there.”
Oh, that we could and would all pray that prayer daily!

Each of us only needs to confess our sins, believing and receiving fully the grace God offers through Christ.

Today is a new day…begin it with Jesus!

What are you holding on to today that is keeping you from being truly free?

  • grudge?
  • unforgiveness?
  • hatred?
  • angry words?

You can leave them at the cross of Jesus and He will forgive. He will help you deal with the guilt and the consequences. Give it to Him today.

We would love for you to consider knowing Jesus personally. There is nothing like letting go of all the guilt and letting Him remove it as far as the east is from the west. If you want more information on how to know Christ personally, just click on the image below.

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Getting Kicked in the Shins

It’s Friday! It’s Sunday! Time for the Five Minute Friday Writing Challenge. 🙂

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Five Minutes Fridays

Time to write for five minutes on a prompt.

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The Prompt is Purpose.

“He kicked me on purpose!”

As a preschooler, my son often said these words or words like them coming off the soccer field. He didn’t seem to understand that when playing soccer, you are bound to get kicked in the shins occasionally. The players are not trying to kick you on purpose, but rather they are trying to kick the ball away from you. Sometimes, that results in getting kicked in the shins.

Some of us have never learned this simple lesson:

Why?

The Bible says “In this life, you will have trouble…” (John 16:33) We live in a fallen world, full of sin at every turn.  God allows each of us to make our own choices.

  • Many people are out only for themselves. But their choices affect the lives of others.
  • It may be that a person is reacting to their own demise. Possibly they just got kicked. Maybe they are sick or grieving causing them to react to life negatively.
  • Other times it is merely an accident, such as in a soccer game.

But regardless of the “why” behind our injury, the question should really be, “How do we respond?”

The answer is to respond “with a purpose”.

In other words, make a plan to respond positively when you get kicked in the shins.

And then follow through with it.

Christ had a purpose.

His purpose was to treat others with humility and love.  We are instructed to treat others as we would want to be treated. We should have the same attitude as Christ. His purpose was to bring all people to Him. (see Philippians 2 and Matthew 7:12).

What is your purpose?

  • Do you think of yourself as better than others?
  • Do you care only about your own interests?

In Conclusion, let’s follow the Apostle Paul’s instruction:

“Work hard to show the results of our salvation, obeying God with deep reverence and fear.” Philippians 2:12

Finding Purpose;

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Savannah, GA

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