Does your Church Have a Special Day for Pastor in October?
I’m hoping that your church does remember the pastor(s) during Pastor Appreciation Month. If not, I hope that you remembered to reach out to him personally. If you haven’t, it’s actually not too late. The truth is, we really should love our pastor all year long. Pastors are usually far from home and family. They need you to be their family and friend.
The truth is, we really should love our pastor all year long.
Pastors are usually far from home and family. They need you to be their family and friend.
Four decades of pastoral ministry is a pretty good perspective from which to share some thoughts with you on how to love your pastor all year long. You might think, “Hey, we had pastor appreciation day. Isn’t that enough?”
Isn’t Pastor Appreciation Day Enough?
Now, anytime is a good time to express appreciation for our pastors. You and I know; however, that unless we put some things on the calendar, they just never seem to happen.
So, someone did just that by designating the month of October as the time for local churches to show their pastors that they are appreciated.
Pastors and their families live under incredible pressures today.
Their lives are played out in a fishbowl, with the entire congregation and community watching their every move.
They are expected to
- have ideal families,
- be perfect people,
- always be available,
- never be down and
- of course, have all the answers we need to keep our own lives stable and moving forward.
Those are unrealistic expectations to place on anyone, yet
most of us are disappointed when a pastor
- becomes overwhelmed,
- seems depressed,
- lets us down
- even preaches a bad sermon or
- subsequently, completely burns out.
That’s why God has instructed us to recognize His servants.
“The elders who direct the affairs of the church well are worthy of double honor, especially those whose work is preaching and teaching” (1 Timothy 5:17 NJKV).
It’s always a good thing when church boards plan a special day for pastors in October for the entire church.
Believe me, this means so much to pastors!
What really touches a pastor’s heart is a family or individual cares enough to do something on their own to show their pastoral family they love them
Here are a few meaningful ways you can Love Your Pastor All Year Long:
- Love his family. Remember their anniversaries and birthdays. Not only his birthday but his wife and children as well. This should include the anniversary of his arrival and other events such as his ordination.
- Make his family part of your family. Whenever you have something happening in your family, include the pastor’s family. Invite them to special family events. Invite them to your family reunions, graduations, etc. This is how you will build a friendship and cause them to feel loved and important.
- Get to know him and his family personally. Establish a real friendship. Invite them to join you for lunch or other activities. Your pastor is a person, too. He would love to just get out and play golf, or go to a ball game. Many pastoral wives and children are very lonely. They feel like they have no friends. When they are out among others, they feel separated because “They are the pastor’s wife/kid”. Try just being a friend. You might find you like them! 🙂
- Give words of encouragement. Send a card or make a call occasionally when you are inspired by his sermon or are impressed by something he does. It would surprise them if you just called to see how they are or just to chat.
- And discourage any negative talk about him. When you hear others cutting him down, stand up for him or at least stop the negative talk.
- Finally, and most importantly, pray for him and tell him you are praying for him. Your pastor has troubles and needs prayer just like you. Pray for him often. Pray that God will bless his studies, his preaching, but also pray for him emotionally, financially, physically, personally. He has the same issues in life that you have.
Your pastor needs to be loved throughout the year. Be sure to think of him all year long, not just in October. Put a monthly reminder on your calendar if needed.
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Writer/Speaker sharing about how to make it through anything. I married a pastor with two boys who just lost their mom, I homeschooled my own children, led children’s ministries and women’s ministries in the church, and founded and led a homeschool support group. Had to give up much of this due to chronic pain. Like the Insurance, I know a lot because I’ve seen a lot.