How to Host Without Complaining

Thanksgiving is just around the corner and we’ll soon have family and friends around the table. So I asked my friend, Sue Donaldson to share a little about hospitality

Hospitality is Hard: How to Host Without Complaining

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Mandy Farmer writer/speaker desires to support you in whatever storm you a facing. She has “Been there done that”. Like the Farmer’s Insurance, “We know a lot because we’ve seen a lot”. Mandy married a widowed pastor with two pre-teen boys. She became their mom and then they added another son and daughter to the mix. A 21st Century kind of family. Mandy served as children’s minister for 25 years followed by serving as women’s minister for 5plus years. In 2011, Chronic Pain became her constant companion which led to job loss for both her and her husband. Then this led to home loss and financial loss. But God is faithful and has brought them through these storms. Mandy would like to come alongside you to encourage you, help you, uphold you. Deut. 31:6

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What’s a Christian to Say When, pt3

 What’s a Christian to Say when spoken against?

In recent posts, I raised the questions about how we, as Christians, should respond spoken against. I felt the need to back up a bit and talk about

  1. Living for Jesus
  2.  When People Ask

And now, the final point.

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Writer/Speaker sharing about how to make it through anything. I married a pastor with two boys who just lost their mom, I homeschooled my own children, led children’s ministries and women’s ministries in the church, and founded and led a homeschool support group. Had to give up much of this due to chronic pain. Like the Insurance, I know a lot because I’ve seen a lot.

What a Christian to Say

What’s A Christian to Say? part 2

What Christians Should Say When Asked

Earlier, I began a discussion about our talk as Christians. How are we to respond to the ugly talk that is everywhere these days? I gave the first step in how to show Christ in response to others ugly talk. Now let’s discuss step two. Continue reading

Writer/Speaker sharing about how to make it through anything. I married a pastor with two boys who just lost their mom, I homeschooled my own children, led children’s ministries and women’s ministries in the church, and founded and led a homeschool support group. Had to give up much of this due to chronic pain. Like the Insurance, I know a lot because I’ve seen a lot.

What's a Christian to Say

What’s a Christian to Say? part 1

What Can I Say?

I am saddened by the foul and abusive talk that is being spewed out all around our country. One might want to speak up and voice an opinion but the response is so ugly that they decide to keep quiet. I don’t want to talk politics here but what’s a Christian to say?

Now, I’m not really interested in what a Christian should stand for politically.  I’ll leave that between them and God. I am more interested in how a Christian should speak about his beliefs and defend his faith in an anti-christian world. It was Billy Graham who said,

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Writer/Speaker sharing about how to make it through anything. I married a pastor with two boys who just lost their mom, I homeschooled my own children, led children’s ministries and women’s ministries in the church, and founded and led a homeschool support group. Had to give up much of this due to chronic pain. Like the Insurance, I know a lot because I’ve seen a lot.

Five Minute Friday Prompt

When He Saw the Crowds

When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them,

[FMF Prompt: Crowd START]

Matthew 9:36

I get disturbed when I watch the news these days. Whether you look at the protesting crowds or the ones they are protesting against, you see so much that is not of God.

But recently, I did a study about kindness and goodness. It has caused me to look with a different lens upon the crowds. Jesus looked at the crowds and had compassion on them. He saw that they were lost and wandering and had no true leadership.

MORE THAN COMPASSION

But He had more than just compassion and kindness; He also delivered goodness to them. He did whatever was in His power to help them. In this instance, we read further and see him instruct his disciples to pray to the Lord that He bring workers into the fields to bring in the harvest. In others instances, he healed the people. Another time, he fed them. And another time He taught them.

WHAT ABOUT US?

So I am wondering when we see the crowds, do we feel compassion or disgust? Do we reach out and give them a hug, or try to teach them or offer a cup of cold water, whatever it is we have in our hands to give?

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THE CHALLENGE

My challenge to myself today. Begin looking at the crowds through God’s eyes. Ask God to show us the need and begin to work by showing the love of God.

I’ve put together a page of scriptures to help us divert our eyes to look at the crowds as God does. Maybe it will cause our hearts to become more compassionate. CLICK HERE for a free printable.

Seeing others with a different light,

Mandy Farmer

 

 

 

 

 

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Mandy Farmer writer/speaker desires to support you in whatever storm you a facing. She has “Been there done that”. Like the Farmer’s Insurance, “We know a lot because we’ve seen a lot”. Mandy married a widowed pastor with two pre-teen boys. She became their mom and then they added another son and daughter to the mix. A 21st Century kind of family. Mandy served as children’s minister for 25 years followed by serving as women’s minister for 5plus years. In 2011, Chronic Pain became her constant companion which led to job loss for both her and her husband. Then this led to home loss and financial loss. But God is faithful and has brought them through these storms. Mandy would like to come alongside you to encourage you, help you, uphold you. Deut. 31:6

We Are Called to Be Different

We are called to be different.

These days many of us would prefer to melt into the crowd than to stand out as different. We would rather not stand out or bring attention to ourselves. But in truth, as Christians, we really should be different. Our lives should attract others to us. No, rather it should attract others to Christ.

Do It Different

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 But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. Once you were not a people, but now you are the people of God; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy. 1 Peter 2:9-10

I recently read these scriptures from 1 Peter. They always prick my heart and cause me to look deep to see if my life is indeed different. However, this time it seemed to have even more meaning. The reason is that it was brought to my attention to whom and when this was originally written.

Perspective Changes Things

It was written by Peter to the Christians in Rome around 60 AD. The emperor of Rome at that time was none other than Nero. You know, the guy who let Rome burn. The guy who persecuted Christians horribly by placing animals skins on them and throwing them in with wild dogs to watch the dogs attack and devour them alive. Other times he dipped the Christians in wax, tied them to trees and burned them alive as candles for his evening parties.

When I think about the fact that Peter gave these strong instructions to persecuted Christians, I am ashamed that we are so timid to stand up for Christ because it may cost us something. We give in to the tiniest of temptations because we don’t want to be different or called out.

10 Ways to be Different

  1. Rid yourselves of malice, deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander. (2:1)
  2. Crave the Word of God. (2:2-3)
  3. Abstain from sinful desires (2:11)
  4. Submit to EVERY human authority. (2:13-14) Notice it doesn’t say “If you agree with them”.
  5. Love the family of believers. (2:17)
  6. Fear God.
  7. Honor the emperor. (This was Nero remember?) Are we honoring our president?
  8. Submit to your masters. (2:18) Can we change the wording to ‘Submit to your boss?’ even when they are harsh
  9. It’s commendable to suffer for doing good. Persevere! (2:20-21)
  10. Don’t retaliate when threatened or insulted. (2:23)

This is the first of Peter’s instructions to the Christian in Rome.

He goes on to address the way we treat our husbands and wives. Peter tells us how we should treat one another, being kind and compassionate and understanding. And then there is the idea that we shouldn’t repay evil for evil. He tells us that Christ gave us the perfect example and we should follow His example giving up all of our so-called rights just as He did for us. He took on suffering and we should do the same.

That is how we stand out. We stand up for what is right paying the price no matter the cost just as Christ did. Let’s make a pact to start be different from the world. Ask God to help you live more like Him in the coming year. If we all join together to live different lives think of the difference it will make!

From one Christian to another, let’s do this!

 

 

 

 

 

Writer/Speaker sharing about how to make it through anything. I married a pastor with two boys who just lost their mom, I homeschooled my own children, led children’s ministries and women’s ministries in the church, and founded and led a homeschool support group. Had to give up much of this due to chronic pain. Like the Insurance, I know a lot because I’ve seen a lot.

When You Don’t Get What You Expect

FMF : Expect

 

This week’s Five Minute Friday   prompt is: EXPECT

Setting my timer for five minutes, and … GO.

 

 

 

 

Have you ever tried to say something nice and it came out different than you expect?

I have lost count of the times I have done it. I call it, “Foot-in-Mouth” disease. Yep! Open mouth, insert foot.

Sometimes, I do it in my writing too,

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Writer/Speaker sharing about how to make it through anything. I married a pastor with two boys who just lost their mom, I homeschooled my own children, led children’s ministries and women’s ministries in the church, and founded and led a homeschool support group. Had to give up much of this due to chronic pain. Like the Insurance, I know a lot because I’ve seen a lot.

Be Happy and Celebrate 

The Olympic season always gives me a sense of excitement.

Every two years, I find myself looking forward to the Olympics. I love hearing those stories of success. I admire the athletes and their amazing feats. Never having been an athlete,  I can sit back and live vicariously through them. And I am happy with that. 

Even early in my life, I  loved reading about athletes who started out with all odds against them,  but they turned it around to win several gold medals. Folks like Jesse Owens and Wilma Rudolph ….

 So many success stories. All of them in one way or another working to get to the Olympics.

But recently, I’ve wondered, “What really is the purpose for these athletes? Is this really what God intended for their lives? Where does it go from here? After they win the gold; after they begin to fall short at the tender age of 20 or 25, what then?

I wonder,”Does their vision go beyond winning the gold?”

Now, I’m not trying to put down the whole Olympic dream.

Isn’t it wonderful that nations will put away their differences and compete together?

It thrills me that athletes work tirelessly towards their dreams.

I am thrilled that playing games can bring a country together in unity.

It’s a beautiful thing.

I just have to wonder what is left when the cheers stop and their names are removed from the record books to make room for a younger, faster, stronger athlete?

I begin to think of the words of King Solomon who said, “Vanity, vanity, all is vanity.”

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“Life is fleeting, like a passing mist.

 It is like trying to catch hold of a breath;

All vanishes like a vapor; everything is a great vanity. “

Celebrate

The happiness that an athlete experiences when they stand on that podium to receive a medal and hear their national anthem has to be overwhelming. It certainly was for Ryan Held on the U.S. 400 meter relay.

36fe30f100000578-3728695-image-a-159_1470628470301 There can be no better moment.  But the happiness and pride they experience will eventually fade away leaving them wanting more.

And what if the Gold is never accomplished? As it turned out for the French gymnast who broke his leg on the vault …

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So where do we find the happiness that stays throughout our lives?

King Solomon said in his proverbs ….

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13 Happy is the man who finds wisdom,

And the man who gains understanding;

14 For her [wisdom’s] proceeds are better than the profits of silver,

And her gain than fine gold.

15 She is more precious than rubies,

And all the things you may desire cannot compare with her.

16 Length of days is in her right hand,

In her left hand riches and honor.

17 Her ways are ways of pleasantness,

And all her paths are peace.

18 She is a tree of life to those who take hold of her,

And happy are all who retain her.

Proverbs 3:13-24 (NKJV)

True happiness comes in finding wisdom, for wisdom is far better than gold and silver medals. It’s better than rubies and diamonds and all the other fair things we tend to desire.

What are you desiring? What are you hoping for that will bring you happiness?

Is it gold medals? Riches? Success in business? Diamonds? Love?

These things in themselves are good.

But they are fleeting.

They do not last.

Our greatest desire should be in something that will last forever.

Our greatest treasure needs to be in finding wisdom and understanding through God.

Knowing Him must be our greatest desire.

Solomon instructs us about wisdom in the Proverbs …

10 Reverence for the Eternal, the one True God, is the beginning of wisdom; true knowledge of the Holy One is the start of understanding. 9:10

He encourages us to put God first and put all our energy into finding wisdom.

Just as an athlete puts everything into winning, we must put everything into finding wisdom.

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 5   Whatever it takes to gain Wisdom, do it. To gain understanding, do it! Never forget this! Never stray from what I am telling you.

    If you don’t forsake Lady Wisdom, she will protect you. Love her, and she will faithfully take care of you.

    Gaining sound judgment is key, so first things first: go after Lady Wisdom! {chapter 4]

Olympic champion, Eric Liddell put God first in his life. 

A son of missionaries, he felt that he should never train or run a race on Sunday. When he realized that the 100m race (his best race) would be run on Sunday, he began to train for the 400m race instead . Against all the odds, he won the 400m. [You may have seen this story played out in the movie Chariots of Fire. Read the story here.]. He then went on to do what God had called him to do, and that was serving as a missionary to China. He was proud to represent his country in the Olympics, but he was happy in representing his savior in China.

Now let’s return to Solomon …

When he became king, he didn’t ask God for riches or success.

He asked God for wisdom.  And because of that, God gave him riches and success in return.

God will do the same for us.

We should ask God for His wisdom and understanding, too. In James 1:5 it says ..

If you don’t have all the wisdom needed for this journey, then all you have to do is ask God for it; and God will grant all that you need. He gives lavishly and never scolds you for asking.

James goes on to say in verse 12 …

12 Happy is the person who can hold up under the trials of life. At the right time, he’ll know God’s sweet approval and will be crowned with life. As God has promised, the crown awaits all who love Him.

And how do we hold up under trial? By putting God first. By seeking and knowing him and his commands.

 Solomon looked at life and saw all the meaninglessness. He said he tried all there was to try in life, but it did not make him happy.

What made him happy  was fearing God.

He summed up Ecclesiastes with a great truth that is fit for all of us.

Be HAppyBe happy, and celebrate all of the goodness of youth while you are young. Cultivate a cheerful heart every day you have youth. Go where your heart takes you. Take in the sights. Enjoy, but remember that God will hold us accountable for all that we do. [Chapter 11]

13 And, when all is said and done, here is the last word: worship in reverence the one True God, and keep His commands, for this is what God expects of every person. 14 For God will judge every action—including everything done in secret—whether it be good or evil. [Chapter 12]

I make the same challenge to you today.

Work hard at knowing and serving God. Enjoy your life with whatever it may be that you love. But remember that God is watching and on the final day, your actions will be your judge.

Searching for wisdom;

Mandy Farmer

Photo credit … acquired through Pixabay.com; modified by Mandy

Olympia by Gerhard Gellinger; Rio by Stefan Schweihofer; fitness by Darren Constant; fog by Unsplash; Rio 2016 photos from ABC

Linking up with the Five Minute Friday crew. The prompt this week is HAPPY…

Oh, by the way, I’ve been posting these every week for two years! We have published a book with several of the best posts. All proceeds go to charity.

 

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Writer/Speaker sharing about how to make it through anything. I married a pastor with two boys who just lost their mom, I homeschooled my own children, led children’s ministries and women’s ministries in the church, and founded and led a homeschool support group. Had to give up much of this due to chronic pain. Like the Insurance, I know a lot because I’ve seen a lot.