I can not do

Simple Things I No Longer Do With Fibromyalgia

Dear friends;

If you been around since my diagnosis of fibromyalgia, I’m sure you realize that I am not the same as I used to be. I’m guessing you have noticed that I am no longer the go-getter I used to be and no longer deeply involved with the children at church, as a matter of fact, I’m not even at church every time the doors open. I walk with a cane and tire very easily. At home, I have to leave a lot of the daily chores to my husband. This is all much to my disappointment but it just cannot be helped.

Simple Things I No Longer Do

Today, though, I thought I might share about some of the simple things you may not realize that I can no longer do since my diagnosis. Here are some of those simple things that most of us take quite for granted.

Wear a hat or pretty barrettes in my hair.

Anything that might pull my hair or put pressure on my head causes a lot of pain for me now. Have you ever put your hair in a tight ponytail and then later when you took it down you scalp hurt? This is me all the time. Some days are not as bad as others, but for the most part, anything in my hair or on my head is a no-no.

Open a bottle of water or coke.

bottle cap simple things

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“Can you open this, please?

Those little ridges on the bottle cap are little needles poking into my hand when I try to open a bottle, especially the first time breaking the seal.

Walk across the floor in my bare feet.

Walking in my bare feet, at times is like walking on a bed of nails. Or worse, little a bed of needles. Can’t wear the socks with slip grids on them either. Each grid causes great pressure or pain on my feet. Lately even the fuzzy socks have been an issue. They feel like walking on a dirty kitchen floor in your bare feet. I had a pair of sandals once with ridges inside the soles. Oh, my, It was just impossible to walk in them.

Don’t mean to overwhelm you. Just trying to help you understand why I no longer do things I used to do. I hate it really cause my brain says, “Hey, let’s do this” but my body says, “NO!” My mind knows these are simple things to do, but no longer for me.

Thanks for listening and understanding,

Mandy Farmer

 

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Pain for the holidays

Pain Comes for the Holidays

Ah, Friend, Happy Holidays!

So here we are again at the holiday season. I have always loved so much about the holiday season. I  love the cooler weather, the baking, the planning of parties and Christmas decorating and caroling. But most of that is no longer true for me. All these things seem to be an invite for Pain to enter my life and hold me hostage during the holidays. Continue reading

true value

What Has True Value in this Life

VALUE

noun. – the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.

This post is inspired by the PROMPT: VALUE from Kate Motaung and the Five Minute Friday crew. The challenge is to write for five minutes. No editing. I encourage you to go to the link-up and read what others were inspired to write.

Value Re-defined.

Our world has re-defined what has value. Today, according to the world we have value because we have stuff, we have amazing talents, we know people. King Solomon said that life has no meaning or value.

But God values us as His children. Actually, He gives us our value.  We are His children.  And because of this, we have great value. We are nothing without him. We can do nothing without Him.

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vote chronic pain

Voting With Chronic Pain

Dear friends;

Greetings from my recliner and a heating pad!

Did you get to vote in the elections this week? My husband and I managed to get out and vote yesterday in spite of knowing that the lines would be long. And indeed, they were. When we arrived we saw a line that extended outside and through the filled parking lot. We figured as much since there were cars lining the streets as we approached. We decided to park in the school parking lot across the street and walk over.

As we walked onto the campus where the voting was taking place we were reminded of two years ago when the lines extended as far for the presidential election. Wow! It’s surprising, no not really with the political atmosphere we have been in for two years, but midterm elections are usually not that big of a deal. Continue reading

fa from god

Feeling Far from God?

God’s Faithfulness

“I have heard all about You, Lord, and I am filled with awe by the amazing things you have done. In this time of our deep need, begin again to help us, as You did in years gone by. Show us Your power to save us.”-Habakkuk 3:2 NLT

Too many times, we feel far from God.

We know He is there. We know all He has done and will do. But sometimes there is a distance between us. If we really examine ourselves, our hearts, our intentions, our motives, we will often find that it was not God that moved away from us. Quite the contrary. Continue reading

how to help

How Can You Help Someone With Chronic Pain?

Dear Friend,

The other day, when you heard about my diagnosis of Fibromyalgia, you said to let you know if there was any way you could help. I thought I might write to let you know how you can help. I know that you mean well, but this kind of offer kind of puts me in a quandary.

You see, I am not really sure how to answer that. There might be something that I know you would do and I would ask you but there are so many needs and I really feel like I am imposing to ask for your help. Unless you are a really, really good friend, I probably will never call on you for help even though I know your offer is sincere. Continue reading

Mayo Clinic – How Healthcare Should Be Done

Inside the Doors of Mayo Clinic

As soon as we entered through the doors at Mayo Clinic, we felt peace and hope. We had never experienced anything like the atmosphere and the love and care we felt when we arrived.

When we turned the car onto the campus we felt peace. We saw beautiful landscaping with trees and flowers and water fountains as we drove onto the campus. We drove right up to the building we needed to check into. Continue reading

Fully Alive Book Review

Book Review: Fully Alive

NOTE: I received this book at no charge in exchange for writing this review. These words are my own opinion and I have not been compensated to say them. 

Dare to Hope again

Have you been losing your hope lately? What is it that is pulling you down into

despondency?

Dare to Hope Fully Alive

Susie’s Larson’s new book

Sickness?

Fear?

Guilt?

Worry?

Grief?

Discouragement?

Insecurity?

Selfishness?

Look up because there is AlWAYS Hope in Jesus.

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Believing in Who I Am

Good, Good Father

A while back I attended an online conference, we sang Chris Tomlin’s Good, Good Father. I had never heard the song before. I liked it. It seemed a good way to start. By the end, it was personal.

You see … I have always struggled with who I am. My name means worthy of love, but I never believed it. While I could long list many good things about myself, when I looked in the mirror I saw a fat little girl that no one could possibly love.

Oh yes, my family might love me, they are required to. But outside of that, I was unworthy. Most of what I did was to try to earn the love of others. Even the use of my talents was really just a way to get people to like me. Anything from making a batch of cookies to singing a song. Maybe they could let me stick around if I did these things. Continue reading

AFRAID

What Are You Afraid of?

 So, What are you afraid of?

Are you worried or scared about the next step in your life? Sometimes, life can seem really foreboding. We might be afraid that we can’t accomplish the next step in our dream. Or that it will beat you down into failure. Maybe God is asking you to do something that you fear will cause you trouble? And you are shaking in fear about moving forward.

Childhood Fears

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